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Saturday, 7 April 2012


We have come in to a small amount of money which means we can afford to get Griffin a head stone.  I thought it would cost a whole lot more than it does so we should get a short break away as well. :)

We've pretty much decided on a plain, black polished granite with gold lettering but are stuck on what the lettering should be.  It's for my Grandparents as well so I don't want to have anything too kiddie orientated.  We are not particularly religious but my Grandparents were devout Catholics so nothing too secular either.

I hate the phrase 'born sleeping' as I don't like to think of dead people as asleep, sleeping is not dead!

I'm figuring something like...
Here Lies
..... (dates)
.... (dates) 
Beloved Parents of
Great Grandparents of
Born an Angel 22nd June 2010
Much Loved Son of 

What do you think?  All ideas are welcome.
Wasn't so hard when I decided to actually write something but feel I should round it up in some way.  It's missing something.

If you buried your child, what does it say on their gravestone?  


  1. How bout just a little personal not on the bottom, I know if I had a headstone for Jack it would say the names and dates and read on the bottom "Jack, Mummy and Daddy forever"

  2. We took a while to decide on what we wanted on our son's headstone. We finally decided on just the name, birthdate, a monkey because that's what his nursery was decorated with, and the phrase: "Held for a moment, loved for a lifetime".

  3. That was a decision I couldn't make, so we keep Charlottes ashes with us, maybe one day I will find a place for her.
    It might me nice though to add a personal touch - for ours it is the phrase 'always in ou hearts'.

    Over form ICLW
    Lyndell (http://gettingitsorted.wordpress.com/)

  4. So sorry to hear about your son... and all that you've been through. Lovely that you can get a headstone... finding the words are so hard .. my heart goes out to you while you decide. Here from ICLW and thinking of you xo

  5. I am sorry to hear about the loss of your son. As heart-wrenching as it must be, it is truly beautiful that you can now honour him further with a headstone. You will find the right words. Holding you in my thoughts as you make this decision.

    Best wishes,


    PS: I'm here from ICLW.

  6. Also here from ICLW, thank you for stopping by. I Like the simple phrase Tisi suggests, I think if i had to make a decision like this I would choose something like that. I am so sorry you have had to face this loss.

  7. I am so sorry about the loss of your son. I can't imagine how devastating this must be. I truly admire your strength to be able to write about what you are going through.
    Take care x

  8. I think it sounds lovely. It took me forever to decide what to put on a headstone, I was convinced I'd hate it. In the end, the words don't matter nearly as much as the stone being in place to me.